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Words from a Wellness Community:<\/p>\n
Stress is bad. Ease is good. And mindfulness is about shifting from the former to the later.<\/p>\n
Or is it?<\/p>\n
When we began our mindfulness practice, this quickly turned into one of our core beliefs. We were both stressed out and overwhelmed in our lives\u2014searching desperately for some way to find a greater sense of ease and flow.<\/p>\n
So, like many in the mindfulness community, we turned to meditation as a way to cultivate calm and eradicate stress. And, in many ways, it worked. But we also noticed that we still got stressed\u2026 a lot! No matter how much we practiced, our lives continued to bring us stressful situations, relationships, and conversations.<\/p>\n
Of course, we weren\u2019t the only ones clinging to this idea that stress is bad and ease is good. We found this idea lurking in the background of meditation apps, workplace mindfulness programs, and articles offering tips and strategies on reducing stress and anxiety. We found it in popular books and articles on meditation, with headlines like \u201cReduce Stress with Mindfulness,\u201d \u201cOvercome Stress and Be Happier,\u201d or \u201cMeditation\u2014The Stress Solution.\u201d<\/p>\n
No matter how much we practiced, our lives continued to bring us stressful situations, relationships, and conversations.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Like many in the mindfulness community, this idea that stress is bad became an almost sacred belief. Whenever the uncomfortable sensations of stress arose, whenever we felt the faint call of our muscles tensing, our stomach churning, or our heart rate racing, we turned to the breath as a way to control and shift our experience from stress to ease. This approach helped us re-frame our thoughts. But we were often left with a residue of physical sensation in the body that we would label as \u201cdiscomfort.\u201d Our strategy to eradicate stress wasn\u2019t working.<\/p>\n
Over time, we experienced the underside of this commonly held desire to get rid of stress. We learned first hand that by prioritizing ease over stress, we created a subtle form of aversion\u2014one that undermines mindfulness and our ability to thrive in the living of our lives.<\/p>\n
The \u2018Get Rid Of\u2019 Trap<\/strong><\/p>\n
The first is internal to the practice of meditation itself. In many meditative traditions, one of the core principles is non-judgmental awareness – the idea of allowing thoughts, sensations, and perceived phenomena come and go. The goal, in other words, isn\u2019t to master the art of controlling our internal experience. The goal is to learn to be with whatever is arising, pleasurable, painful, comfortable, or uncomfortable.<\/p>\n
Put bluntly, when we use mindfulness to get rid of stress, we\u2019re no longer being mindful.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
The paradox is that when we use meditation to get rid of stress, we leave this core principle behind. Instead of witnessing the rise and fall of phenomena, we attach to certain states\u2014ease, relaxation, flow\u2014while simultaneously avoiding other \u201cnegative\u201d states\u2014stress, anxiety, irritation. Put bluntly, when we use mindfulness to get rid of stress, we\u2019re no longer being mindful.<\/p>\n
The Stress Mindset Trap<\/strong><\/p>\n
The second trap is based on the popular belief and faulty assumption that all stress is indeed bad. While this belief is commonplace, the science of stress fails to back it up.<\/p>\n
Consider the research of Stanford psychologist Alia Crum.\u00a0 \u00a0Research\u00a0shows that how we respond to stress has a lot to do with our \u201cstress mindset.\u201d In one study, for instance, participants were tasked with doing a mock job interview, an almost universally stressful undertaking. Prior to the interview, some subjects were shown a video informing them that while stress is often seen as bad, \u201cresearch shows that stress is enhancing.\u201d Another group of subjects was shown a video claiming that research shows stress is even more debilitating than you might expect.<\/p>\n
The results were quite simply amazing. Crum\u2019s team found that altering the \u201cstress mindset\u201d of participants changed their biological response to stress. Those in the stress enhancing group, experienced an increase in the hormone DHEA a hormone associated with building optimal health, along with an associated rise in the growth index\u2014a measure of focus and problem solving skills. Those who went into the interview thinking stress was bad, experienced a diminished biological response and performance.<\/p>\n
All of this is to say believing that \u201cstress is bad\u201d is both factually inaccurate and counter productive. It\u2019s inaccurate because the research shows short-term stress (as opposed to chronic stress) often promotes positive mental and physical outcomes: good stress can be a powerful catalyst for growth. It\u2019s counter productive because simply believing the thought \u201cstress is bad\u201d leads to a stress mindset that undermines the ability of our body and mind to deal effectively with the stress we face.<\/p>\n
For tips on two practices to mindfulness to build resilience through stress, check out the link:\u00a0 www.mindful.org\/being-with-stressful-moments\/<\/a><\/p>\n
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Words from a Wellness Community: Stress is bad. Ease is good. And mindfulness is about shifting from the former to the later. Or is it? When we began our mindfulness practice, this quickly turned into one of our core beliefs. … Continue reading